November Writing Challenge, Day 3.
Clarity.
I gained the clarity of sight in fifth grade. I didn’t realize I was squinting, but one of my teachers did. Nobody in my family had connected my debilitating headaches to poor vision. But what a relief it was to be able to read road signs easily and distinguish cows from…well, blobs. The migranes disappeared, never to be repeated in my lifetime thus far. And believe it or not, I prefer myself with glasses even though so many people feel the need to tell me I’m so much prettier without them. These are the same people who like it when I have straightened hair. #sonotworthit
Shopping for glasses every year is both a blessing and a curse, as so much of my life is. It’s a blessing to be able to afford high quality lenses and the ability to have them so quickly and *almost* effortlessly, compared to many countries that have no availability to them at all. And the selection! It takes me forever to narrow it down to just a few pairs. I always make the saleslady pick, as I am a hopeless Gemini. But contacts are out of the question. I nearly have to be hog tied to get eye drops in (I’ve found rolling them off the side of my nose is almost endurable) and I can barely get an eyelash out without crying or melting down from an anxiety attack. It’s ridiculous! I’m not normal. I can’t bear to tell you about the “little puffs of air” glaucoma test. That is my own personal hell. Give me a pelvic exam any day over that torture. Beyond dealing with near constant specks and smudges, the only other bad thing about poor eyesight is keeping up with glasses. I’ve put them in the same place for forever before I go to sleep, but it’s more to do with jumping in bodies of water forgetting that you have on your viewing apparatus. Fortunately, I’ve never lost a pair. At $500 bucks a pop, I can’t afford to. Although, many years ago, I was late to work one morning hunting them. I had evidently driven home in my sunglasses and my regular glasses were discovered the next day in the floorboard of Patsy. Never did figure that one out.
I remember when math clicked, and telling time, and when I learn someone’s profession and it’s like, “Oh! That explains so much!” Or those life hacks links. Those are the very definition of clarity.
I gained clarity again as an adult, when I realized a college education will get you so far, but what is really valuable are the connections you make and the memories never to be repeated. I’ve gained clarity over and over again as I’ve stepped away from poisonous relationships, toxic friendships, and dead end jobs. Sometimes it takes stepping back to realize things aren’t going to get any better.
Right now it’s pretty clear that I’m not going to get much housework done today, but plenty of reading. The day is not clear, there’s fog drifting from last night’s rain and it has me in its melancholy grip. Nope, won’t be much accomplished today in this house.
November Writing Challenge Day 2
Wind.
Once upon a time, in a land full of dirt roads and gently rolling hills, there was a cabbage plant. And under its largest leaf quivered a small winged grasshopper. The grasshopper wasn’t sure what had happened for him to be separated from his 392 siblings, but here he was. He was scared, but he wasn’t cold. He was lost, but he wasn’t blissful. He was green, but he wasn’t jealous. His yellow eyes darted anxiously as he chewed his bottom lip. He flicked an antenna and waited.
Pretty soon he heard the chirrups of friends and neighbors 40,000 strong and he ventured out from under the cabbage leaf. He stretched out a leg and eyed the sky for swooping sparrows. The golden wheat rustled and he warily watched the high grass for other uncertainties. He climbed a stalk and munched thoughtfully on a tender sprout he’d found on the way up. It was green like him. The stalk shifted slightly. He gently swayed in the wind. He spread his wings to shake the dust out.
And he remembered being lifted, the sensation of being weightless, and this was it, it was wind. It was wind beneath his wings. And he was flying away, to the next cabbage patch, on the next wind.
I never gave much thought to wind until I went out west. It’s not like we get hurricane gale force winds here in East Tennessee. But in Oooooo-klahoma (where the wind comes sweeping down the plains) it’s a whole different scenario. It took me till the Painted Desert to learn my lesson about only opening one vehicle door at a time. That’s right, you have to coordinate with other passengers who’s going first, second, and so on so that you don’t create a swirling vortex in the middle of your car. And so that you can get the doors slammed back shut without them being ripped away. It’s crazy! But the flags always look nice. It’s so constant and powerful they’ve harnessed it like we harness water out here and have these crazy huge clusters of windmills providing energy to homesteads.
But here the wind is more of a gentle breeze to be appreciated from a porch swing or the shade of the old maple while catching a break from the garden. The tinkling of the windchimes lures you to relaxation with the sweet notes that ring out. In the rare event the wind gets too severe, it’ll break the middle of the Bradford Pears out (blasted trees!!!) or take out some old rotted limbs. Thankfully that doesn’t happen very often.
In the pines, in the pines, where the sun never shines…and we shiver when the cold wind blows…Bill Monroe certainly accurately captures the image of the wind in the Appalachias. Curl up in front of the fire with a mug of hot chocolate and a tattered copy of Gone with the Wind and read while the snow falls and piles in drifts.
Of course, here at the Johnson Plantation, the most common wind is of the broken variety. No little grasshoppers here. Just barking spiders.
Instead of doing 30 days of Thankfulness I’m switching it up this year.
I think it will be good for me. All twelve months are listed on Pinterest. I need to get back in the habit of writing. Time is so hard to come by, though, between working, keeping house, cooking dinner, my own maintenance (which seems to grow by the day), reading my self imposed goal of sixty books this year, and catching up on social media. But anyway.
So. Day One. Heartbeat.
Well. The obvious is when your heart starts beating, you’re here, and when it stops, you’re not.
But I’m not normal and the first thing that comes to mind is Brian talking about wood fences that don’t lay with the land and have “heartbeats” (bumps).
But for the sake of a good story, we’ll track back to the customary usage.
I see more hearts stopping than I do starting.
My heart stopped the first time I laid eyes on Johnny. I know it did.
I’ve seen heart stoppingly gorgeous creatures; horses at play in fields and working cattle, their muscles rippling and manes flying away from their necks as they turn on a dime (my heart has stopped when I became separated from said equine in a grand fall). I’ve witnessed panthers pacing and stalking prey, their gorgeous shining coats showing just a shimmer of dapples. I’ve watched fish glide and birds soar and swoop and wondered at the ease of which they go and how could my eyes possibly take in all the details? I’ve stumbled upon deer frolicking and turkeys strutting and scared up a hoot owl in pursuit of a small groundhog and it was all heart-stopping-fantastic. Even bats and cicadas are beautiful as the sun goes down in a sherbet sky. Pause and watch sometime. Your heart may give pause.
I’ve read poetry of such magnificence my heart stopped and watched breathtakingly beautiful mountain scenes pass outside my window and stared perplexed at fog and waterfalls and impossibly clear days.
I’ve ridden heart stopping roller coasters, where you pull 3G’s upside down with your head eighteen inches from the ground and you just know this is IT.
I’ve been at weddings where the beautiful bride just cries into her perfect flowers and wonders at the perfection of the day and how could her heart possibly hold another ounce of love? So it stops on her day and everything is a snapshot for that one moment.
My heart has stopped in haunted houses. I hate that crap where they sneak up after you when you think you’re on to the next attraction.
I’ve witnessed hearts stopping in hospital waiting rooms when they get the news they’ve been praying about.
There’s much debate over abortions, and when an embryo crosses the line from being cells to being a human. The argument is frequently made that the fetus gains a heartbeat at around three weeks old, and so that’s the defining line. You pray for heartbeats. You pray for your own if you’re sick, and you pray for more for those you love, and you pray for it to be strong if you’re carrying.
The heart of rock and roll is still beating, according to Huey Lewis. The Heartbeat of America is today’s Chevrolet. And I’d eat a dozen cupcakes in a heartbeat if I wouldn’t gain 10 pounds.
Heartbeats. Takes all kinds.
It terrifies and saddens me that I almost lived a life without Neil Gaiman. He is most wonderful and gifted and unique and I was thisclose to never knowing.
If you need a vacation for your brain, if you want to slip into something more comfortable, if you’re tired of the pretentious books with parallel meanings and readers’ guides (why can’t they just say what the want to, for the LOVE), if you can’t stand the thought of another book hailed as a “gripping suspenseful novel with a twist, the likes of which have been unseen since Gone Girl” THEN READ NEIL GAIMAN. On second thought, just read him for the love of reading. Read for the childhood you think you’ve lost. It’s just there, around the bend. Step in. Step through the wall. Perhaps you’ll meet your hearts desire. Maybe you’ll catch a star.
Buy it here I don’t know why it’s not showing the picture….it’s a pretty fantastic cover. There’s a unicorn in this book, for Pete’s sake. A UNICORN.
Here are a conglomeration of Facebook Birthdays to my reliable pickup I bought on Friday the 13th, 2000. That’s right, almost twenty years ago. She has been my everyday vehicle for the duration. She’s only had one set of brakes in her lifetime. She’s seen me through two wedding dresses (but only one wedding, think on that), three speeding tickets (all THP), and I don’t know how many French fries and fishing trips. When the finance manager at the dealership asked how long I intended to keep her, I answered firmly, “Until the wheels fall off.” I bet he would be surprised to learn that I’m still behind the wheel.
2014: Happy Birthday to Patsy, my beloved Chevrolet. She was bought 14 years ago today. It was Friday the 13th. That has proved to be exactly the opposite of a bad omen. She has been an excellent vehicle. I had $2500 in the bib pocket of my overalls for a down payment that night. My salesman was like, “you would bring cash…” Like it was a bad thing. She has hauled hay, saddles (there’s one in the seat right now), wedding dresses, bookshelves, & @$$!!! I’ve got the speeding tickets to prove it. But truly, everyone said I couldn’t afford it, I would hate being in something so big, I would go broke on the gas mileage. Gas was $1.47 per gallon the day I bought her. I still wouldn’t change a thing. Hope she’s still runnin’ in twenty more years.
2016: Happy Birthday Patsy. Sweet 16.
Like a rock.
(A rock doesn’t have air conditioning, either).
Here’s y’all a Patsy story I’ve never told on here:
I’d had her less than a week & had a hankerin’ for a doughnut. So, like any true Southerner, whupped into the Krispy Kreme for some tasty morsels. I bit into a raspberry jelly filled one pulling out of the parking lot & it squished out a hidden orifice of the pastry.
Unbeknownst to me, it wound up on my seatbelt.
Hence, in my hair.
I didn’t realize it until hours later at my destination when I wondered why my shirt was so sticky. By that time, I’d managed to get it all over the door, too.
I celebrated with doughnuts again today. But a little stickiness would have been the least of poor Patsy’s ails lately. We’ve come a long way in 16 years, with ice cream in the floorboard, barbeque sauce in the shifter, & mayonnaise on the headliner.
She’s safely delivered me to and from every destination all these years. Maybe not the easiest thing to park…and certainly was an attention getter in her early days (remember the stripper at Target, Meg??) but I’ve always been proud and felt invincible in my rig. Thanks Patsy. You’re a good ‘un.
I like fountain cokes and mountain dews in cans, I like sweet tea that crunches and Snapple because of the satisfying plop sound it makes when I open it. I’d recognize that sound in the furthest galaxy. I like cold milk with any dessert and I drink lemonade when I think of it. I like coffee flavored sugar milk when it’s below 50°. I like ice cold water first thing of the morning.
I like bats and swallows, because they dine on mosquitoes.
I used to like okra.
I like bumper stickers (saw one yesterday that said “do you follow Jesus this close?”)
I like people who drive fast but talk slow, and barbeque with cole slaw on the side.
I like standing at the tide line and feeling the sand getting sucked from under my feet.
I like sea turtles and sea otters and sleek seals. Simply put, I like the sea.
I like trucks that aren’t afraid to get muddy.
I like my tattoos, and don’t care if you do.
I like eating crab legs and oysters outside on a wooden deck with never ending bottles of beer.
I like fishing.
I like slobbery, happy, goofy dogs who make no apologies for being glad I’m home.
I like it when the tv is off.
I think everybody needs a fence 🙂
I like witty church signs that make you think the congregation has a sense of humor.
I love Peyton Manning with almost my whole soul. I think we’re the last two people on earth who religiously write thank you notes. Wait–and Cheryl Stranahan.
I like Frank Sinatra’s voice, the Rolling Stones, bluegrass, Kacey Musgraves, Gary Allan, Dwight Yoakum, Miranda Lambert, Ricky Van Shelton, and Patsy Cline. I also like Taylor Swift, but don’t tell anybody. I love Elvis and Aerosmith and sometimes Eminem. I like banjos and fiddles and harmonicas. But nothing makes me happier than catching Dolly on the radio when I’m in downtown Sevierville. I sometimes crave good old church music.
I believe they should teach the words to the Star Spangled Banner and how to shake hands in school instead of the beginning of the Constitution. I think the bigger the flag, the better.
I like Rolos and Reese’s Pieces.
When someone dies, you go to the funeral. You go if you didn’t know them, because a person you love loved them. And you hug that person until they let you go. You don’t turn loose first.
I like mermaids and I’ve always liked unicorns. I don’t think there’s an age limit to liking either one.
I like going to my beautician and growing up and growing old with her. I like how she doesn’t really ask what I want, because she knows I’ll speak up if I want something different (whatcha doin’ with that curlin’ iron? Twist this shit up and pin it, it’s hot and I’m ridin’ with the windows down!) I like to pretend I’m at Truvy’s.
I like manners in young and old alike.
I like to start my day by making my bed, then picking out my shoes and build my outfit around them.
I find serenity in trees. I disliked the desert because it is so vast and empty, devoid of trees. The only exception was the Saguaros.
I like books about things I’ve never thought about….and books about things I think I know. I like talking about books. I like looking at books. I like books about books.
I like Stephen King and Shakespeare.
I like everything about Scarlett O’Hara, even the bad parts.
I like festivals and fair food and running into people I’ve known all my life. I like live music and people with a beat.
I like sitting on the porch listening to the locusts chanting and watching the dogs and birds and the neighbor across the road pick up sticks. No porch is complete without a rocking chair or swing.
I like picking blackberries and squinting in the sun and worrying about the bull across the pasture.
I like poetry that rhymes.
I like gathering eggs.
I like turkey sandwiches, pickles, sun ripened tomatoes, and barbeque tater chips. But I also like sushi.
I like the smell of vanilla candles, hay, and suntan lotion.
I’ll eat cranberries in any form.
I like old houses, most especially the ones with the prospect of ghosts.
I like people who laugh without restraint and look me in the eye.
I like decorating for Christmas.
I like the color pink.
The only birthday cake there is comes from Village Bakery, so I don’t have to even say I like birthday cake. You know I do.
I like riding horses taller than me. Bonus points if they’re grey or black. I also have a soft spot for bays.
I like that people in the South smile at you for no reason other than you made eye contact. I like it when Yankees move down here and notice and want to adapt to our ways.
I love Newport Oregon, Savannah, Charleston, and New Orleans. I like Las Vegas alright. I would live in Idaho or on the Oregon coast if I could only convince the southpaw journeyman I’ve chose to spend my life with. I want to go to Scotland, Ireland, and Alaska before I die. I would also like to visit Paris, but only with a translator, and Australia if they drive out all the snakes.
I would get a massage every single day if I could afford it. I would also pay somebody to worry about my hair and keep up with my phone if I were a billionaire. I would wake up on my private yacht every day on my way to somewhere else.
I love to vote & believe everyone should if you’re allowed. I think that would be my most upsetting priveledge to lose if I ever found myself in prison.
I like rainy days and the crisp bite of autumn when it finally comes.
I like corny jokes and catching crawdads and swimming all day, and thinking about all the days I squandered doing just that.
I love the fantasy of Pinterest and how sometimes it becomes a reality.
I like cows in my Facebook feed better than anything else in this whole world.
I wish you didn’t feel the need to impress us with your life that we all know isn’t perfect.
I like history and antiques and people who can tell a worthwhile story, like Ray Ball. I love Ray Ball.
I like Amazon, Etsy, & Abebooks. I am thankful for the internet. I like putting things in carts like I’m a ba-zillionaire.
I like playing pinball and skeeball at arcades.
I like napping on Sunday afternoons while golf is on.
Trains make me lonesome, but I like them anyway.
I like things monogrammed.
I hope this brought a tiny bright spot to your day or made you smile and say, “I like that, too!” If it didn’t, you should probably go get your passport updated. Take that any way you want to.
I spent one of the final days of summer on my porch.
My porch is nothing fancy. I know this shocks some of you to your very core, seeing as how I’m such a fancy cat myself. But it’s utilitarian, concrete, with no handrail, no screening, and no paint. However, it does boast a rocking chair and two slobbery companions. The view is alright, far enough from the road to be apart from the action with a wide expanse of grass in between.
I sat there and took note of an irregular breeze that caused a few leaves to rustle and spiral downward. I watched a few birds come and peck out sunflower seeds. I started a new book, and put it down to pick back up one I’ve been trying to read for a few weeks now. But neither one held my attention. At least the neighbors were nowhere to be seen, nor their constantly barking dogs. I relished the quiet. I watched Lightning repeatedly invade Sugar’s space. She didn’t act like she noticed. I think she’s past caring.
I’ve cooked everything this weekend. I feel like I spent all my time at the sink or in front of the stove. I made bacon wrapped pickles, crab dip, and stuffed mushrooms for the game yesterday. Johnny declared it “weird” and barely touched it. By 8:00 I felt sorry for him, since all he’d eaten was a bowl of Apple Jacks and a few hot pocket triangles (so much better than originals), so I made spaghetti. It was a good choice, as I had the mushroom stems to use and two ounces of cream cheese.
Today I made biscuits (the frozen kind, lets not get too carried away), bacon, sweet tea, boiled 10 eggs for Shug’s breakfast this week, and fixed up four chicken bowls for lunch this week. Then I added artichoke hearts, velveeta, more hot sauce and Worcestershire sauce to the crab dip to see if that made it any more edible. Velveeta and Texas Pete helps everything, according to the muscles of the plantation.
I’ve had a pretty good month so far. I’ve got to read my favorite sentence three times. What, you don’t know it? “Amy was right.” The first time was when one of my former coworkers text me to let me know a certain coworker I detested was fired. “She was crazy. You were right.” I don’t know why it took them this long to figure it out, and I also didn’t know that she had doubted me. The next was in a work email, but I don’t remember the details. And the last time was just moments ago on Facebook. One of my friends has a snail problem in her fish tank but she kind of likes them, but they’re beginning to take over. She was wondering if she removed all but one or two if that would be a problem. I told her she’d be back in the same boat before long, because snails do not need a mate to procreate. And some stranger chimed in with, “Amy is right.” ***Cheshire Cat Smile*** Not that I had any doubts, I learned that in a science class decades ago. Some stuff just sticks with you. But it’s always nice to hear. Or read, as the case may be.
Anyway. That’s ,y day. I hope you find time to reflect. It’s the pause button of life. Use it wisely.
It’s a little embarrassing how much I loved this book, most especially after I was so sure I was going to hate it. Nothing like being wrong.
First of all, THAT COVER. *stars in my eyes* I haven’t figured out how to do all the fancy italics and emojis on here, so you’ll just have to inject your own enthusiasm and implied meanings.
This book took me by surprise by how good it was and, of course, the sexual overtones that popped up out of nowhere that ended up being the entire premise of the novel. If you make it through the first chapters (which seem totally out of sync with the rest of the book…not sure what purpose they served) you’ll be gone up the river with them by page 50. I suppose I’ve never given much thought to anthropologists and what their work encompasses, besides being completely filthy all the time. Ick. Not for me. And a struggle for Bankston, our male protagonist, as well: “‘And I am bad luck in the field, utterly ineffective. I couldn’t even manage to kill myself properly.'” But he does get sick, as he says this. It’s almost like he brought he omen on himself, as no mention has been made to his poor health. “The spangles returned at that moment from all sides, and my eyeballs ached suddenly and painfully. The world dimmed, but I was still standing. ‘I am perfectly well,’ I said. Then, they told me later, I fell to the ground like a kapok tree.”
Anthropology is the studying of people, and digging to the root. It’s psychology in its truest, most bare form. As an added attribute, Nell is an author. “I would have liked to sit at the messy desk, read the notes and the underlinings, flip through the notebooks and read the typed-up pages in the folders. It was a shock to see someone else doing my work, in the midst of the very same process. As I looked at her desk, it seemed a deeply important endeavor to me, though when I looked at my own it seemed close to meaningless.” All the characters are so wonderfully imperfect and real (and well developed, with the exception of Fen, but I could care less about him), and it’s funny how although it was set in the ’30s there’s still so much to identify with. He has major abandonment and mommy issues that Nell addresses immediately. The self-described “tall brooding slightly unhinged Englishman” whose “height can be disturbing to certain tribes” (I bet!): He talks about his father: “My father had a big moustache, which often hid a small smile. I didn’t understand his humor until I was grown and he had lost it, and took him very much at his word, which amused him, too. He was interested, for my entire childhood, in eggs.” And his mother: “We had a special bond because she did not want me to grow up and I did not want to grow up either. My brothers did not make it look easy.” “‘Were you close to your brothers?’ she asked. ‘Yes, but I didn’t know it until they died….And then six years after John, Martin did die and I felt like–‘ And then my throat closed entirely and I couldn’t force it open and she stared at me and nodded into the silence between us, as if I were still talking and making perfect sense.” She’s able to do it with everyone, it seems: “Nell was laughing with him and I wasn’t sure what had happened: who had asked the questions, whose questions were asked, how we got that story out of him when he did not want to tell it, when he had kept it as a secret all his life.” And this woman: “she speaks several local languages but only a small bit of pidgin so we mostly flapped our arms and laughed….By the end of the visit she was trying on my shoes.” See? Women everywhere are nearly the same. It is explained in this way: “You don’t realize how language actually interferes with communication until you don’t have it, how it gets in the way like an overdominant sense. You have to pay much more attention to everything else when you can’t understand the words. Once comprehension comes, so much else falls away. You then rely on their words, and words aren’t always the most reliable thing.” And not to profile, but it does seem like deaf people are so much more in tune with other’s emotions. I always want to hide my face from the way they peer so intently; it’s almost as if they can see straight into your soul. Maybe that’s why children make me uncomfortable, too. And there are loads of children in this book, not just the dead ones. “Kanshi’s grandmother called out from her mosquito bag that she was napping and could they please go and drown themselves.” This cracked me up, further proof that people are the same all over.
I don’t know how much of this the author drew from case studies (or Nat Geo), or just out of her brain. The rituals and the traditions and the superstitions all felt real to me. Maybe it’s from growing up in the South that has its own ways of doing things, passed down from generation to generation. I guess we’re not so far removed from the jungle, after all. Especially the higher up in the hills you go…or the further in the swamp. Which brings me to religion…we all have our idols, whether it’s Jesus or Buddha or a totem or Dolly Parton. Or, like it says at the beginning of chapter 4, “I was raised on Science as other people are raised on God, or gods, or the crocodile.” But he feels a void at the end: “His spirit has gone wandering, they said….He was once a man of fire and he came back a man of ash….They appealed to his ancestors, reciting their long names, and to the land and their water spirits. I watched how fervently they prayed to all their gods for the return of Xambun’s soul to his body. Tears sprung from their clenched eyes and sweat beaded on their arms. I doubted anyone had ever prayed for me like that, or any other way for that matter.” I’ve felt this way in some churches, watching how people believe and worship. It’s fascinating but also exhausting.
I liked the grid, the grouping of people on a compass. Unfortunately, I’m not a Southerner. Perhaps I used to be, and then was ruined. At any rate, the idea has merit. And the assigning lovers as wine or bread: wine is thrilling and sensual, while bread is familiar and essential. Makes sense, doesn’t it? And sometimes when the wine qualities run out, bread just isn’t enough. Maybe the bread is stale, or worse yet, moldy. Or maybe it’s sourdough, which you don’t even like to begin with. “So often a woman’s pleasure felt to me a mystery, the slightest wisp of a thing you were meant to find, and she having no better idea of where to look than you did.” 🙂 He’s on to something here, for sure. But he knows how to follow his heart: “I followed. Of course I followed.” And I love this: “the Tam believed that love grows in the stomach and that they went round clutching their bellies when there hearts were broken. ‘You are in my stomach’ was their most intimate expression of love.” I wonder if that’s part of why they say the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach? I know this is true, Shug proposed to me after he found out I could make cornbread. I didn’t even have to prove it!
This line made me happy: “She claimed ami was the Zuni word for rain.” That explains why I love it 🙂 And there’s this story, that may well be my very most favorite ever: “‘At three or four I had a big tantrum and locked myself in my mother’s closet. I tore down her dresses and kicked her shoes all around, and made a terrible amount of noise, then there was an absolute silence for a long time. ‘Nellie?’ my mother said. ‘Are you alright?’ and apparently I said, “I’ve spit on your dresses and I’ve spit on your hats and now I’m waiting for more spit.'” But her family life was much different from Bankston’s. Whereas he was encouraged in the sciences, and to learn all he could, hers was the very opposite: “Not sure things could have been much worse. We were raised to know nothing, to think nothing. Chew our cud like the cows. Say nothing. That’s what my mother did. Said nothing. I made myself as useless as possible in order to stay in school.”
“‘I love you,’ she said, her lips still against mine. But it meant no.” I think she loved him for his mind, for it was so aligned with her own. But she didn’t recognize it at first. “I wish the three of us could paddle out tonight and get all turned around and use it to find our way back.” Or maybe she still thinks she can possess them all.
I hate Fen. I hated him on sight. He was apple cider vinegar in a wine bottle. “He is making himself perfectly well understood and people are much less apt to laugh at him as he is a man and taller than all of them and the dispenser of most of the salt & matches & cigarettes.” He’s like the school jock that nobody honestly likes but they pretend to for his riches and pool.
“Strange how a ship was our doing and now our undoing. Let him rage. Let him rage across the oceans. But he will rage alone.” I feel that she gained her original strength back, once she was away from all the distractions of the tribe. I can’t believe she stayed with him as long as she did. I mean, she never took his name, which was a pretty daring move back then. Something was amiss from the beginning.
“Let go now, the moon said. And the man, who had no more strength left, let go and fell directly into his canoe and paddled home to share his wife, as all men did, with the moon.”
I felt like I could read two thousand more pages of this love story in the wilderness, but of course that’s how all the best books leave you. And if it was longer, it wouldn’t have been as perfect. I purely loved it. I can’t wait for book club, for discussion questions that draw out the double meanings and make you look at it with new eyes.
I’ll leave you with this, how the book would have ended if we lived in a perfect world of happy endings: “He is wine and bread and deep in my stomach.”
I didn’t want to go to work today. Sometimes I have an ominous feeling on the anniversary of September 11th, those are the days I keep my bug out bag within arm’s reach. Sometimes I’m despondent, dwelling on the lives lost starting with this fateful day through the War on Terrorism. And sometimes I’m just mad.
Today I was dejected, thinking about how useless it all is. And the hurricane, on top of all that. And yes, it could have been a lot worse, but is that how we’re going to live our lives? It was going to be dreary and wet and cold. So I just wanted to loll in bed and read, and kinda forget the rest of the world existed for one day. In short, I wanted to be selfish.
On this day. This day. THIS day.
The day when selfishness was banished from society in one of the hardest cities on Earth.
When strangers kissed on rooftops, thankful for their lives.
When emergency personnel rushed into burning, tumbling buildings just to save one more life, knowing they probably couldn’t save their own.
When the President of the United States of America kept reading to kindergarteners after receiving the worst news possible whispered in his ear.
So yeah, I could get out of bed. I could do this.
And so I drove to work, thinking about people in New York City and Washington 16 years ago who had probably been dreading going to work, another mundane day of pushing around papers, fighting over money, deferring to their superiors, and waiting on 5:00. People who were boarding flights for their next connection or destination.
All the while evil lurked beside them.
I thought about my day 16 years ago.
Have you forgotten? Or did you never know?
I understand now how my Grandmother’s generation carried distrust and hate for the Japanese their entire life. I understand why they got so emotional on the anniversary of Pearl Harbor. I know why it’s so frustrating for people to disregard and not honor our true heroes- the soldiers, the firemen, the police, the volunteers. The mourners.
I mourn to this day. I don’t know if I will ever stop.
And I wonder if in two hundred years, they will tear down our monuments. If they’ll want to eradicate the memory of the fallen. If they’ll say it’s too painful to remember and it’s not fair to the generations that dwell here now.
There’s a lump in my throat and tears in my eyes and I don’t know if it’s from the injustice or the anger or for the stupidity of our great nation.
I want y’all to think back. Take a minute and remember. Need some help? Remember the silence in the air. Remember the curfew. Remember your stricken heart as you called everyone you knew, double checking that their flight wasn’t today. Remember not wanting to drive too far from home. Remember gathering your children a little closer than normal, holding them just a little bit longer. Remember reading your Bible and finding comfort. Remember looking twice at those who had brown skin. Remember the flags and patriotism. Remember, remember, remember…
Thank you for remembering, America.
Now help someone else who doesn’t because who knows how the history books are gonna tell it when we’re gone.
Oh, football weather is once again upon us. And I’m happy. I’ve got veggies, bottles of ranch dressing, and all the fixin’s for nachos.
I also bought some sushi, but that can be our little secret.
So anyway, the preparations have been underway. We’re flying the colors and sporting our best orange.
Mom has been out to the graveyard to get Grandmother ready, too. I approve of this, mainly because it’s cool and I couldn’t do it if I had to. I can still see her, perched on the couch, her back ramrod straight. “Hold ’em boys, hold ’em.” She’d be puffing away on that cigarette and probably wishing for a shot of Jack Daniels. Grandmother was a big Vol fan, as we all are here in big orange country. Knoxville is a sight to behold on game day.
Not sure if you can make it out or not, but the little football says “Go Vols” on it. My contribution was the “live, laugh, love” part because Grandmother wasn’t very religious and all the scriptures just felt wrong. She was all for laughing and loving, though.
So that’s her little piece of Big Orange Country, about ten miles from Neylabd Stadium. I’d say she can hear the cheering and feel the stands thundering as 100 thousand strong make their voice heard.
Here’s the 2016 season. I couldn’t find one from 2015 or older, though I know Mom has done this for several years now.
I always wonder what other visitors to their beloved’s gravesites think when they come upon it. Probably what most people think when they meet members of my family: “Good Lord, they’re crazy!”
We play in Georgia tonight. Hope they’re ready. Vol Nation has descended once again.