December Writing Challenge Day 5
(Day 35)
The remote’s gone.
We thought the remote had taken a dive this weekend. It’s only about 20 years old, the one I’m talking about. It goes with the surround sound system. All the words are worn off so I just use the buttons on the device. The remote has a bazillion more that I don’t know what in the world it could possibly be controlling, so it’s just safer all the way around if I avoid it at all costs. But it was fine, the batteries had just corroded. Isn’t that strange that it was still working fine until the last few days?
Scenario 2:
My uncle has a sometimes ghost. He hasn’t been bothered by the ghost since moving to the cabin, but at the old house the ghost was as much as an inhabitant as him or Aunt Bren. He frequently stole/ moved several objects, including the remote. So to hear things like, “The remote’s gone,” and the prompt response of “the ghost has got it,” was not in the least unusual in their house. No worries, he frequently returned whatever he took the day you stopped looking for it. But they’ve moved out on the ghost, and he now haunts The Puerto Rican on a Stick.
December Writing Challenge Day 4
(Day 34)
Star.
Neil Gaimon writes in Stardust that a star is a person until it falls to Earth. His take is very interesting, and I strongly persuade you to read it.
I say stars are magical celestial beings and we all get to be one for a little while. I think they’re shaped like giant kidney stones made of solid diamond, that’s why they sparkle so. I think stars are our hopes and dreams that were fulfilled before we lost our belief in magic. I think stars are the people we lost and missed and they decided to suspend themselves for a few minutes while we look.
I think stars are beautiful no matter what they are and it wouldn’t hurt us at all to look towards them more often.
December Writing Challenge Day 3 (Day 33)
Suicide.
Geez. What a topic. I like to make light of things but there’s not a light side to this. So I plan to tread carefully, and let me apologize ahead of time if I inadvertently step wrong with my words. I am rarely eloquent. I am always sincere when it comes to something serious.
Suicide will touch most of us at one time or another. I got a little practice while working as a dispatcher. As much as you can, in any case. We had these books, a protocol of questions to ask your caller for pretty much any life or death situation. But the callers always wanted to ask us the questions. And it was always the same: “WHY???”
The short answer was we didn’t know, and it wasn’t for us to know. The long answer is as follows:
Debt and gambling problems. People think they are worth more dead than they are alive and that their loved ones would be better off without them. So they take matters into their own hands and we’re left holding the pieces.
Pain. I once knew a mighty fine man. When he was younger, he played professional baseball. He hurt his back. He was never the same. Time went by, he became successful at his career. He married and raised children. The pain never left him. So, at the brink of retirement, he took his own life. He chose to go instead of being a burden on his family and an addict in the eyes of strangers as his pain gradually worsened as he got older.
People make other people suicidal. It ain’t no wonder. People are crazy, and they make other people crazy. And then they take their life. Only the strong survive. You let someone get to you and it affects your life. It takes over your relationships with others and your social or work life and then there you are. Evil lurks everywhere and loves to prey on the helpless. Or what they deem as helpless. Some people won’t cut their ties to these people because they don’t value their own selves as worthy and instead take themselves out of the equation. Look at the person making you miserable. Are they happy? Do they have a solid group of people they call friends? Or have they run everybody off and nobody can stand them?
Families are probably the most influential when it comes to pushing someone over the edge. Hopefully in other cases, they are the ones to talk them off that ledge. Families put a lot of pressure on you to be a certain way or do specific things that are important to them. They want you to repress your feelings for the sake of saving face and protecting the family. This is breeding ground for passive aggressive disorder and depression. Some parents don’t cope well with divorce, and whoever has the child has the added burden of looking after them while they grieve. I’ve heard stories of children who passed notes under the door to their guardian because they needed help with homework or fixing something to eat but the door was locked so they had to do what they could to get help. I’ve heard of families unable to provide for their children but also unwilling to ask for assistance so the children steal food and hide it where they can–potatoes in the situation I’m aware of. There are parents who want to put their children in a box like a doll and only get them out when it suits them, when they won’t interfere with the rest of their life. Of course, you can’t blame divorce on shitty parenting. Plenty of crappy/absent parents are still married. They think they’re doing it “for the kids”. The kids are meanwhile down the hall, listening to their parents fight and cuss and say all manner of horrible things about each other and maybe even the children. Children don’t ask for this life, they are without fault. There are children whose routine is so upset that they’ll stay with other relatives just to get peace and calm in their upturned lives. This seems to be happening more and more as drug addiction grows. Those memories don’t just vanish when you turn 18. They continue to haunt you and make it hard to believe in true love and commitment. Divorce can warp you at a vulnerable age in your life. You may not have anyone who loves you. You may get caught in a downward spiral that you’re unable to crawl out of. More people would probably seek therapy if it were more available. You might be able to get it free, but you gotta work or then you’ve got monetary problems. So if you are caught in a life without love, perhaps you think it would be easier to just leave forever.
Work. There are people in high stress jobs. Dispatchers for one, but I use them as an example all the time, being as how I have first hand experience. Imagine being on the phone with someone, and you’ve done everything you can possibly do, and they die before help gets there. They might have died anyway, but you didn’t save them. What if you had pushed the button sooner for paramedics? Was there a shorter route? I worked with a few worriers, and they were sometimes haunted at nighttime with whether they sent an ambulance to a caller, or a fire truck to this address. You can’t second guess yourself. What about psychiatrists, listening to someone else’s problems day in and day out? It would wear you down. Don’t forget about farmers. You may see them as laid back, easygoing but they are at the mercy of the Lord and the weather. Investors. What if they put your retirement in the wrong funds? What if the stock market crashes again? What if, what if, what if?? Surgeons. Is there anything harder? Your job is to save lives and do no harm but when someone dies on your table during a routine procedure and you have to answer for it. And there may not be a logical answer. Small business owners. The livelihood of many depend on them. Just making a living is so hard for so many. And if you work all the time, you feel you’re neglecting other areas of your life and there you are…doing your best but feeling inadequate and like there is no hope in sight. And so you sink.
I feel that Facebook is sometimes a catalyst. People see what they want to see, read what they want to read, and interpret it the way they think best fits their views. Narcissists, most especially, are the guilty ones. Facebook feeds the attention seeking addiction. People see other people getting more attention, looking perfect and gorgeous in all the beauty filtered selfies, think they aren’t worthy, and things degrade from there. If you’re constantly getting butthurt on there about some trivial injustice or some stupid trolls on public posts, maybe you need to unplug and get your priorities straight. Or unfriend or unfollow.
Terminal illness. These are perhaps the most dignified deaths, and understandable to my eyes. I would not want to suffer and if I had a way to ease into eternity, I’m all for it. But many people don’t believe in this unnatural passing and unable to comprehend how anyone could be so selfish.
Church and God and the guilt. We all struggle. Other Christians and atheists alike will make you doubt your faith because you’re unable to live perfectly like Jesus. Well, you only have to do your best. If you’re defeated, that’s just life. It doesn’t mean you’re any less in God’s eyes, no matter what people say about you in or out of church.
Medicines and hormones. To combat mental or physical illness, doctors may prescribe a multitude of medications. These medicines may not agree with your constitution, or each other, and you may be too sick to know it or get help. You think the solution is suicide, and perfectly reasonable.
Depression and Post Traumatic Stress. Think of what our military saw that was widely accepted as the norm. How do they go on? And we think WE have problems? No wonder they can’t sleep at night. I can see wanting to just stop the visions that are on constant replay.
As a writer, I struggle. People generally love for me to write about them. (Some of these people are egotistical. You can spot them by the overdramatic comments and posts. They’re the ones who check into hospitals and don’t say why.) Sometimes I’m not even aware I was writing about anybody in particular, I’m just telling a story! The narcissistic among us do not to be portrayed in the slightest bad lighting, even in the pretext as a joke. Thankfully, I have thick skin and have no qualms about cutting destructive, toxic people from my life. It would take an impossible to imagine amount of stuff to make me contemplate suicide. The attention seekers desire conflict at every turn and live to torment and guilt. It’s best to ignore completely. And if you can’t do that, or if that’s not working then you have to just move on without them at all. And it won’t be much of a loss if they’ve brought you much strife. I couldn’t stop writing if I had to. Even if no one was reading. I won’t apologize for putting my self preservation ahead of your inflated ego, dramatization, and exaggeration.
Don’t take the “easy” way out. You gotta fight for the right to live. As I said before, only the strong survive. Surround yourself with people who make you happy, and make you better.
I was taught to lie at a young age.
I also had my butt busted at a young age for lying about the least little thing.
It did not occur to me until this morning, at 38 and a half years old, that I was brought up a liar.
I was frying bacon and eggs for a sandwich. I thought, “Oh, goody! We can use our new Christmas plates since this is just a sandwich and we don’t need big plates.” I then went over to the table and felt their heft as I lifted them. Maybe this wasn’t such a bright idea. I broke my new turtle glass the other day, and I didn’t want to risk these so early in their life. What if I couldn’t replace them? I mean, they’re just Wal-Mart plates but I really like them. No, not the Pioneer Woman ones they’re pushing. These are the Twelve Days of Christmas. I could just see me washing them and their soapy slickness slipping through my grasp and thirteen million pieces as it went everywhere.
So I set the plate back down and thought, “Lets not and say we did.” Which. Is. A. LIE.
But that’s a passable lie, since it was always used in jest. Like when I wanted to do something that nobody else did, like go to the store, or ride horses all day, or eat an entire chocolate cake. It usually made me sigh theatrically and know the battle was lost so I would flounce off, pigtails swinging.
So we didn’t use the Christmas dishes this morning, but I’m gonna say we did.
December Writing Challenge Day 1
Day 31 for me.
Battery operated.
I bought sixteen batteries the other day.
I have two left. I filled a few of the candle light things that I set in windowsills and then two in a remote. Gone. It’s disgusting. And the little candles are already dead because I accidently left them on all night. Two different nights, since I’m in the business of full disclosure. But crap, we go to bed at 9, soooo…
Seems like everything is battery operated anymore. And I’m sure when I was little my parents thought the same thing. I once had a “remote control” racecar. Remote control is in quotations because it had a cord, about ten feet long, that ran from the car to the controller, so that you had to constantly be on the move running behind it.
I had some rechargeable batteries that I used for my Mp3 player but I’ve lost them. The charging port is still here somewhere, though. I saw it the other day. You would think there would be some sort of solar replacement in this day and age for everything that takes Duracells. And by the way, Duracell is the way to go. Don’t waste your time with anything else.
Well. That’s about all I’ve got for this little topic.
November Writing Challenge Day 30
Her couch.
My couch? Well, my couch is dark brown cushy leather with nailhead studs, scattered with red damask pillows and a monogrammed blanket. It will take you hostage on chilly winter days or rainy summer ones. It is slowly beginning to show wear that I like to think gives it a little character. I say this because I can’t afford to buy new stuff for at least five more years. When it was new, if I sat back on it, my feet wouldn’t touch the floor. I’m short, sure, but it made me feel so petite. Now I’ve wallered (wallowed, I suppose is the correct spelling) it down and the cushions have compacted some. I remember picking out the furniture before a bithday dinner one night. It wasn’t my birthday, it was one to be endured because my friend’s family was coming and I couldn’t get my drink on. So I pre-gamed with a different friend. Somehow shopping for living room furniture seemed like the thing to do to fill the little bit of time before supper. I knew what I wanted, so it didn’t take but a quick perusal of the showroom until I happened upon the set. I got a “free” TV with my purchase and my salesman could not understand when I flipped my hand over the choices. “Whatever, it doesn’t matter,” I told him. He was completely bewildered until Brandi told him that I have no desire to watch TV, that I read books for entertainment. Was he not paying attention when I picked out the chair and ottoman for my library? Meanwhile, I was preoccupied with selecting lamps. Yes, I was at the chain store Rooms to Go. I probably won’t ever darken their doorway again. They employ some of the most aggravating people I have ever encountered. This woman calls me at work to try to sell me an extended warranty. I let her know in no uncertain terms that I was at work to pay for the said furniture in the timely fashion they expected and I did not appreciate the interruption, that I had no children or dogs and that if the furniture fell apart before the regular warranty was up, we would all be on a first name basis and not in a friendly way.
Wells Fargo does lots of 12-month-same-as-cash financing; you should probably look into it for any major purchases. I use them all the time.
Anyway, back to the lamps. It took me three times as long to decide on them as it did my bulky furniture. What is with all the art deco pieces? What happened to the normal shaped lamps that actually resembled lamps? Not a lamp in disguise as a sculpture from the MoMA?
The two hoodlums that delivered my furniture hit my gate and I didn’t know it until the next day because HEL-LO I stayed home to lounge on my new couches. I couldn’t figure out how they managed to hit it, anyway. The truck wasn’t THAT big. They didn’t have to back out, they’d made a circle out front. When I called the store to let them know, they said they were sorry if that was the case, but if I couldn’t prove it, too bad so sad. We raised and cocked the hinges to get it working again.
Anyway, once all the pieces were installed per my specifications, of course I preferred the longer couch (or sofa, as they’re known up north). But things change when you get married and your husband needs the room to stretch out. So I have relinquished my favorite piece to curl into the corner of the loveseat. It’s fine. I have the table. It’s my spot. Sheldon would be envious.
It’s funny how people have always tried to tell me what I want and don’t want for one reason or another, and I have always been abundantly happy with my choices. They said I didn’t need a big truck, the fuel would kill me. I’ve always been thankful for Patsy-what she lacks in looks she makes up for in ground clearance. My paint choices- I’m not even going to go into it. My furniture-I shouldn’t get leather, it’s hot in the summer and cold in the winter. It has to be cleaned. Yes, well, I hope the heating and air conditioning in my home continue to regulate the temperature of my couches. And that’s what snuggly blankets are for. And as far as cleaning, don’t you have to suck the dust off cloth couches? And they show wear in how the fabric gets squooshed flat and worn off. So I’m constantly defending my opinions. I suppose if someone were offering to pay for my furniture, my paint, my truck, and were going to be living here looking at it or sitting on it every day, or sharing custody of Patsy, then their opinions might be taken into consideration. But they’re not. Thank God. I wouldn’t be so defensive but it was every time I turned around until I got married. Like I wasn’t capable of making a decision without a man in my life. Give me a break.
November Writing Challenge Day 29
In the fridge.
My refrigerator is enormous. That’s good, because I cook a lot. I eat a lot, too. Here it is before Thanksgiving.
I took a picture to show Taj, because he was all about me marinating my turkey and I’m like, but where am I going to put it after I marinate it? It’s not like Ziploc makes bags that big. And while he was all sealed up I could pile stuff around him. If he was in a pan, well, that ain’t gonna work.
Yes, that’s a ham and turkey.
No, I don’t feed twenty. Just me and Shug and my friend Brenda this year. I don’t know how to cook “small”, I don’t even know what that means. The best part of staying home for Thanksgiving is the leftovers. (And no bra. And the wine. All the wine.) It’s a long story of why we stay home and why family doesn’t come, so I’ll spare you.
So anyway, today it’s full of leftovers.
I’m so sick of looking at them, eating them, trying to create recipes…ugh. One more meal and I will freeze what I can and the the dogs will feast. Or gorge. Bug acts like he doesn’t know where to start and Sugar acts like there’s no time to waste.
I do love me a turkey cranberry croissant sandwich. With cheese. And sweet tater casserole. I cannot get enough. I was deprived of that stuff until my adult life, and I’m making up for lost time.
But the reserves are dwindling, and for that, I am thankful. I’m making a turkey pot pie tonight. May have to get a little creative. Can you put mashed potatoes in a pot pie?
November Writing Challenge Day 28
I turn the page.
I have not had a book in my hand in dayyyysssss. Days, I tell you. I’ve been too busy decorating, cleaning, cooking, and working. I’ve even done a little shopping. I can’t concentrate long enough to read, because I’m so far behind on blogging. (For instance, it’s the 30th. I just finished the 27th and now here I am on here). Our book club is meeting here tomorrow night and I haven’t even cracked open the first page of this month’s selection. I have been working on the Holly Madison book for over a week. I figured I would have it read in two days, I’ve been looking forward to reading it forever and a day! Not to mention all the others I’ve started and abandoned. I’ll mention them, maybe someone can tell me whether It’s worth pressing on: The Painted Bridge by Wendy Wallace, Eve, by William Paul Young (same guy who wrote The Shack), Dragonfly in Amber (2nd Outlander…they’re just so enormous It’s daunting), Pilgrim at Tinker Creek by Annie Dillard, and the Accursed by Joyce Carol Oates. It’s shameful! I can only console myself in that I’ve been very busy doing worthwhile or necessary tasks. I’ll catch up in February when I leave Facebook for Lent. Sometimes I wish I could leave it forever.
So that’s the literal turn a page portion. Now for the figurative.
As we grow older, we talk about chapters on our lives. Childhood is our first chapter, with high school next, maybe followed by college. The milestones of your first real job and relationship are another, marriage is one, your first home and mortgage, perhaps children if you’re doing it in “order”. Career changes, divorce, and deaths of loved ones fill out the remainder of our book of life. Sprinkled on the pages are our friends and the little anecdotes of our time here. Our circle of friends changes, some come and go and some stay for chapters. A few people are fortunate and come stay for the whole book. This is a rarity.
In my life, I have been extremely fortunate to have the same friends through the majority of my life. I may turn several pages and have no mention of these friends, but they always pop back up. Never in the strangest places, always exactly where I need them. I turn the page, and there they are.
Love especially to Sharon, Meg, Lisa, John Alan, and Minor, my oldest and steadfast tribe. Y’all are written on so many pages.
November Writing Challenge Day 27
I have plans.
I’m also a liar. I have no plans. It’s something I say in jest, like girls in the 80’s said they had to wash their hair. Whenever someone asks me to go do something outside of my hermit shell, they probably get this stock response.
I mean, I have general plans, like, I’m going to write a blog every day for a year, whether I have pictures to go with it or not, I’m going to read a minimum of 52 books a year (I’m not above cheating. If I knock out a Stephen King, I’m probably gonna read something short and sweet to counterbalance time lost), and I’m going to see my stylist Friday. I’m gonna need a new vehicle within a year or so, so I’m kinda planning on going looking at Nissans soon.
I’m already married, so I don’t have plans on the romantic front unless you count where we’re going to eat Friday night. I’m fairly content in this house, so I don’t have plans to move. I even like my job just fine, so I’m not looking for anything elsewhere.
I haven’t carried a day planner in years. Of course, I don’t have much to plan. Board meeting once a month, book club once a month…and that’s pretty much it. Sad, I know. I frequently have to call doctors offices and say, “I have an appointment with y’all….sometime in the near future…can you tell me when?” and I write it on my hand or the calendar at work and I might put it in my phone if I remember after we hang up and I don’t get distracted doing something else.
It seems that when I make plans, it gives me time to dread it and think of all the reasons I shouldn’t go, so it’s best if you can just get me to commit as close to the spur of the moment as possible. Your chances are much higher that I will show up.
We’re not guaranteed tomorrow, so I always feel the need to say, “Good Lord willin’ and the creek don’t rise,” anytime I promise I’m going to be somewhere or do something. But it’s human nature to make plans, trivial or not. So we do.
I must go. I have plans to go to bed. So I can get up tomorrow and do it again. Very busy. Lots of plans.
November Writing Challenge Day 26
Liar.
I know a whole bunch of ’em, don’t you? One in particular springs to mind that would have cost me my job if Co-op if there hadn’t been so much evidence to the contrary of what he was saying.
You’re supposed to live your life so that if anyone ever said anything bad about you, no one would believe them. Well, this guy did…so it didn’t look so good for the truth tellers (already enemies) when the chips began to fall until the truth came out. “The truth will stand when the world is on fire.” People who had known me for ten years shunned me. For months I was truly an outcast among friends and FAMILY. But I kept my head high and my eyes straight ahead as things got worse. I spoke the truth and I knew it and God knew it and that was all that mattered to me.
I remember going to lunch by myself for weeks because no one would have anything to do with me and I just cried and cried. People thought I cost him his job. No, that was years in the making. A file an inch thick.
I’m sure there are people who still don’t believe what was proven but that’s fine. I threatened to have t-shirts printed once it finally broke but I never did ☺ I guess I have to have standards every now and then. The high road is a mighty boring place. I guess the restitution is finally paid but I haven’t asked. Hopefully the tarnish won’t disappear from his name for a long, long time. Because once a liar and a thief, always a liar and a thief.
